Do we have the same goals and want the same things in life

At one point in the relationship, and hopefully before you tie the knot, you and your partner need to sit together and find out if you have the same goals and if you want the same things in life.

Having an intense connection and great interpersonal chemistry might not be enough to walk down the aisle even if it appears that way.

Both you and your partner need to make sure that you know what each other is seeking in the future. If there could be any possibility that different goals and life ideas could drive a wedge between the two of you sometime in the future.

A very simple example could be that he likes playing pool and is in the pool hall every other day playing with his buddies. It might be great at the beginning because you are with him but would you be ok with him still going to the bar to play pool after you are married, or have kids and you no longer can go with him.

Keep in mind, you will not be able to change a person. The only one you can change is yourself. So when you don’t feel comfortable with him going by himself into a bar to play pool, it might become a huge sticking point and source of conflict after you two are married.